Alcohol is known for bringing out the drunk personalities of those who drink it, but we’re going to discuss how to stop being an angry drunk. There are several personality types that many people fall into, but one of the most common and perhaps most dangerous is the angry drunk. Drunk personalities include:
- The Emotional Drunk – Prone to weeping or pouring their heart out to friends.
- The Flirty Drunk – Seeks to chat up and get cozy with their romantic interests.
- The Social Drunk – Sober introverts who become drunk socialites, eager to talk to the world.
- The Angry Drunk – The angry drunk is infamous for turning unpredictable and unsafe after getting drunk. They usually have a few drinks and immediately turn too aggressive for the given setting. They also take the slightest offense or insult and immediately turn things into an altercation.
4 Signs to Know If You Are an Angry Drunk
Angry drunks are usually well known for being the last person you want to invite for a night out, lest they get drunk and get into a fight at the bar. If you’re an angry drunk, you may do things that you regret in the morning; that is, if you don’t get blacked out and forget about it. So why do some of us become angry drunks?
Well, we know that drinking alcohol affects the decision making process and usually lowers our inhibitions, so being an angry drunk could indicate that someone has an underlying anger problem that comes out when they start drinking. Being an angry drunk can be difficult to determine, but here are some telltale signs:
1. Anger Problems While Sober
Do you have anger problems outside of your drinking? This could mean more than just having outbursts and difficulty controlling your emotions: You could have anger issues because of the way you suppress your feelings, causing them to escape in large outbursts of anger at inappropriate times. If you have issues controlling your anger, alcohol will only make that situation worse, and it likely shows when you are drinking.
2. Being “Dry Drunk”
Drinking gives us lowered inhibitions and causes us to engage in some less than stellar behavior. “Dry drunk” is when you engage in this type of behavior without drinking. In other words, if you have poor impulse control, difficulty reading situations, or invasive behavior, you could be prone to angry drunk behavior when you are actually drinking.
3. Being Overly Aggressive or Violent
People are more likely to respond to emotional triggers when they are drinking, but for the angry drunk, even the slightest hint of offense could be cause for a fight. If you’ve ever started or been involved in a drunken altercation, try to reflect on what happened and how the situation could have been handled better.
4. Difficulty Controlling Your Drinking/Temper
Many drinkers have at one point considered whether they should stop drinking altogether. For alcoholics, that question may come up on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. There are different types of alcoholism, but one of the biggest indicators of an issue is when the person wants to quit drinking but is unable to. If you have difficulty controlling your drinking behavior, odds are you likely have trouble controlling your temper while drinking.
How to Stop Being an Angry Drunk
To stop being an angry drunk, you must first identify and accept that you have a problem. Maybe you’ve heard from friends or a significant other that you become angry or hostile while drinking. Once you’ve accepted that you have a problem, you can begin to understand and remedy the situation.
1. Identify What is Making You Angry
Anger comes from within and is a feeling that we all experience. We need anger to stand up for ourselves and others when something is wrong. An anger problem arises when we express our natural anger in ways that are harmful or unproductive in solving the dilemmas at hand. If you have problems with anger while drinking, you could be attempting to solve some issue that you feel unable to resolve, such as feeling inadequate, relationship problems, work problems, or other issues that feel out of your control. The important thing is to trace the steps back from your outburst and identify what sets you off.
2. Find Support
The best way to approach an anger problem is through the help of a support group or a clinically trained counselor at an alcohol rehab center. These kinds of groups will help you express your feelings in a healthy way and provide you with tools to help you deal with your anger. You can look online to find anger support groups in your area, or if you feel that your drinking is a problem, as well, you can visit any Alcoholics Anonymous group nearby.
3. Moderate Your Drinking
If you’ve noticed that you’ve flown off the handle several times in the past while drinking, then it’s time to take a break from hard boozing and back away from the problem. You may even be using alcohol as a means of coping with your anger problems, trying to numb your feelings of anger or perhaps hoping to release them in ways that feel cathartic at the time but do not help you in the long run. Moderating your drinking, either permanently or for a little while, will help you view the problem from a healthier, less clouded point of view.
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The Link Between Anger and Alcoholism
The link between anger and alcoholism is complicated, but there are several factors that play into why they are interrelated. For one, alcohol can serve as an excuse for aggressive and angry behavior. Actions while drunk are usually more socially acceptable or passed off as merely drunk behavior. Alcohol also induces tunnel vision, which can make anger seem like the only appropriate response in a given situation. Alcohol also reduces inhibitions and makes you less afraid of the potential consequences of showing your anger, making the likelihood of an outburst greater. Lastly, alcohol also greatly impairs your decision making and judgment skills, which makes controlling your anger much more difficult.
Wake Forest University School of Medicine professor David Friedman has been researching drug abuse and addiction for 40 years. His answer to the link between alcoholism and anger is simple: “You probably won’t be surprised, but there are simply some people who are more angry and hostile than others. It’s these folks who get the angriest when they drink.” Although this answer is simple and relatively straightforward, it has taken years of research to arrive at this statement definitively. The reason that some of us seem to undergo a Jekyll to Hyde-like transformation while drinking can be attributed to a mix of personality traits, social science, and neuroscience. It all comes down to our natural inclination towards anger and our brain’s way of dealing with the effects of alcohol.
Alcohol and Your Personality
People with anger problems are the ones most prone to becoming angry drunks, but it may not be obvious to others that someone has an anger problem. If you have a problem with silently harboring anger, you may be likely to let it spill out while drinking.
In a 2010 study conducted in Sweden, researchers found a link between people who suppress their anger and their likelihood for getting into drunken brawls. Because alcohol decreases our self-control, our pent-up rage is more likely to come out while drinking. The study also found that those who suppress anger were more likely to drink themselves to the point of being drunk, which also increased their likelihood for getting into a drunken altercation.
Another study published in 2011 showed that those who focus more on the present than the future were generally more aggressive and had difficulty considering the consequences of their actions. Alcohol tends to create a myopic, tunnel effect for those who use it. For those who already don’t think about the future, this could easily lead to making a short-sighted decision and possibly getting into drunken altercations.
Alcohol Affects Empathy
Alcohol and other psychoactive substances are known for reducing our ability to recognize emotions and empathize with others. So it should be no surprise that alcohol makes it harder for us to recognize when we are threatening or being hostile to someone else. Likewise, we may also misinterpret when someone is being normal and think they are acting hostile or antagonizing.
Think of the last time you or an angry-drunk friend interpreted someone else’s actions as being an insult and getting into a fight when the whole thing could have been avoided. They say that the best way to predict future behavior is to look at past behavior. Look at your own or a friend’s behavior and see if this kind of behavior is a pattern or not.
Neuroscience and Alcohol
Alcohol greatly affects all the chemical systems in our brain. Even just a few drinks can completely change the way our neurotransmitters talk to one another. This kind of communication disruption can wreak havoc on your frontal lobe’s decision making, judgment, and executive control.
Without your prefrontal cortex in-control, there are parts of the brain that simply don’t get checked, resulting in impulsive thoughts and actions. If you take someone who is more prone to anger in general, they will be less likely to restrain themselves while drinking. Alcohol also disrupts your serotonin levels, which can disrupt your mood regulation. People who have lower than normal levels of serotonin tend to be more violent.
Alcohol, Aggression and Violence
There is also a strong link between domestic violence and alcoholism. There is the stereotype of the drunken husband who returns home and physically abuses his wife, but this is an age-old convention that science has begun to debunk. Research has shown that heavy drinking is not the primary cause of domestic violence. In fact, the majority of those who are guilty of domestic abuse are likely to engage in domestic violence after only a couple of alcoholic drinks, meaning that they are not drunk enough to blame their actions on impaired judgment.
If you or a friend have had altercations while drinking, you may be asking yourself whether you have a problem with alcohol and anger. You may even consider whether it’s time to stop drinking entirely. If this isn’t the first time you’ve considered this, you should know that is the first sign of a possible drinking problem.
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